
It's been my experience that dealing with money can either make or break a relationship. Money matters can come at any time and can be extremely destructive if not handled correctly. I find that most times its not easy to take 'equal responsibility' in paying the bills in the household when there isn't 'equal income' coming into the house (and more so when salary differences are really big). The spouse or partner who earns less may feel overwhelmed or not contributing as much. Then again the spouse who makes more shouldn't also have to carry everything on their shoulders for their successes either. That is why it is vitally important to sit down and discuss how bills and mortgages are going to be paid. Some folks pick certain bills to pay in the house and others split the bills how they see fit (which doesn't always work out too well). For example, splitting things 50/50 in a household can be unfair to the lesser earner. But on the same note, taking on a higher burden just because you make more can lead to feelings of resentment in the long run. And for some of the ladies out there that rely on men to do everything for them, trust me that can get real old, real quick.
Suzanne Orman had a great suggestion for keeping household money matters in their proper balance. Each spouse or partner should pay an equal percent towards the bills. This way at the end of the day each earner is paying the exact same percentage amount towards the bills and common household needs; which keeps everything in fairness and amicable for all parties.
Example:
Dean and Jessica Alexander have a combined household income of $98,000.
Dean's Annual Salary $60,000
Jessica's Annual Salary $38,000
Rather that working with pretax figures, I find it easier and more of an eye opener in dealing with the actual income that is coming into the home (with taxes and health insurance etc already taken out).
Dean's monthly take home pay: $3,160 (1580 biweekly)
Jessica's monthly take home pay: $2,122 (1061 biweekly)
Household monthly income: $5,282 (2641 biweekly)
Mortage: $1,700 (1,700/5282 = .322 = 32.2%)
Bills (Cars,utilities,food, etc): $1,524 (1524/5282 = .289 = 28.9%)
Savings: $528 (528/5282 = .10 = 10.0%)
Childcare: $1,000 (1,000/5282 = .189 = 18.9%)
DEAN JESSICA
Mortgage = $3,160 x 32.2% = $1,017.52 $2,122 x 32.2% = $683.28
Bills = $3,160 x 28.9% = $913.24 $2,122 x 28.9% = $613.26
Savings = $3,160 x 10.0% = $316.00 $2,122 x 10.0% = $212.00
Childcare = $3,160 x 18.9% = $597.24 $2,122 x 18.9% = $401.05
Dean's Total Contribution = $2,844.00
Jessica's Total Contribution = $1,909.59
Below is the remaining monies for both parties. This is money that you can put into your individual checking accounts as the main bills have all been taken care of and savings has been established, so in case of an emergency, the money allocated for savings is there and available for use without having to panic and/or scrimp. All personal spending and purchases can come out of your individual accounts.
DEAN JESSICA
3,160 - 2,844 = $316.00 2,122 - 1,910 = $212.41
I would suggest that large purchases (anything over 100 bucks) be
discussed by both parties even though you have separate accounts. Ladies we know can make decisions in haste (especially when there is a
good boot sale) and talking it over keeps you both in the same
mindset. It also works in reverse when he is trying to buy a new TV or riding lawnmower...